Taking the time to understand the stimuli and setting events that trigger behaviors in us that lead to outcomes we do not want is the first step in the change process. Bringing to awareness these unconscious behavioral habits allows us to make a new choice, to re-train our automatic reactions into thought-filled responses that lead to the outcomes we want.
Once you understand your automatic, habitual responses to situations or stimuli, you may realize you don’t have any other responses for the situation. Here is where learning new skills and practicing them in a safe environment comes into play. It takes practice and good feedback to hone a new skill. It takes even more to replace an old habit.
With practice, support, accountability, and safety, old habits can be changed into new choices. With time and effort, those new choices will transform your life into the one you want and can celebrate. Let’s get started!
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